THE GUIDING PRINCIPLES OF SYNCHRONICITY
- UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Conditional love often is love that has to be ‘earned’ on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions imposed by the lover. Whereas in unconditional love, is love “given freely” to the loved one “no matter what”. In our natural state of being (our spiritual-self) we are pure love, always have been, always will be. One of the best examples of unconditional love in this world can be seen and experienced from dogs and some other animals too.
“Love is unconditional and felt with the heart. Those who put conditions on their love are selfish and will lose out on what love has to offer!” – www.feelmylove.org
- SYNCHRONICITY – FOLLOWING YOUR HEART / EXCITEMENT /JOY / PASSION / DREAMS
Synchronicity is how the universe works when we let it.
Outside of unconditional love, the principle of synchronicity is the most important as all others just complement it. This Principle is about fulfilling your heart’s desire. When you are in this mode and are doing what you’ve come here to do and when you do this in every given moment with integrity then synchronicity just flows and keeps on flowing.
Everything is synchronicity but there is positive synchronicity and negative synchronicity. When we talk of synchronicity we are really referring to positive synchronicity.
One is not aware of the synchronistic process when experiencing negative synchronicity. It seems like everything just happens to you. This is victimhood and that is part of being in that negative flow; rather like being carried down a river out of control and trying to fight against it… very exhausting!
Experiencing positive synchronicity creates more expanded awareness and allows one to see that everything and everyone is connected, “Oh, what a co-incidence just what I needed”. In this state you start to realise ‘you are the creator of your reality’ and you begin to guide it in the direction you wish to go by simply following what feels good to you.
Experiencing synchronicity is a delight. When in this flow everything goes right quite effortlessly, speedily and joyfully. The best part is that the events that take place are usually very unexpected and are often surprises. It is rather like opening Christmas presents when you were a kid and had no idea what you were getting. Another wonderful part of being in this synchronistic flow is that you are “provided with what you need” to carry on living your joy.
The secret to starting and continuing synchronicity is to do the things that you prefer and do them with love, trust and integrity!
To maintain positive synchronicity one needs to act and operate from these Principles. Deviating from them stops the flow and activates negative synchronicity. For more on Synchronicity click HERE.
“I do believe in an everyday sort of magic – the inexplicable connectedness we sometimes experience with places, people, works of art and the like; the eerie appropriateness of moments of synchronicity; the whispered voice, the hidden presence, when we think we’re alone.” – Charles de Lint
- INTEGRITY – WIN-WIN-WIN: ALL-FOR-ONE, ONE-FOR-ALL
Full integrity is knowing that “you are an integral part of a whole” and acting like it. That whole is the totality of consciousness, the ALL-THAT-IS, or God, or Allah or the Infinite Creator. Conversely, that whole is made up of all its parts – rather like saying your whole body is made up of all your cells. Each cell contains the information and qualities of the whole body (a fractal) but the cell is not the whole body, just a miniature version of it. Likewise, we are all a miniature version of God (made in the image of God) containing the same qualities albeit often in a hidden or dormant form.
“One of the truest tests of integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised.” – Chinua Achebe
Acting from integrity means that you are acting “as the whole being” – because whatever you do affects the whole in some way – sometimes in profound ways, other times in minor ways – depending on what you are doing and with whom you are interacting.
In the broader sense acting with integrity includes all the other Principles to some degree and requires that you be non-judgemental.
We often hear the term “Win-Win” – meaning I win, you win”. But Win-Win-Win means I win, you win, we ALL win including the environment and the planet. This concept fits in with acting from integrity, i.e. from wholeness or oneness. When one operates in this fashion, cooperation and collaboration starts to takes place which then leads to inter-cooperation between cooperative people because then everyone has a vested interest in being successful or winning. For more on Win-Win-Win, click HERE).
“We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully, nor for much longer, unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody.” –Buckminster Fuller
We are always totally trusting in something. There is never a lack of trust. Do you ever not trust that the sun will rise tomorrow morning? No, you trust that 100% – no doubts. Do you even not trust that if you jump off something you will not fall towards the ground? So the only relevant issue is: Where are you placing your trust? When we trust in something, anything 100% then it will manifest – it has no choice because we are each the creators of our own reality all the time. Whatever reality we see is because we have a 100% trust in that reality.
The type of judgement that is being referred to here is defined as “the invalidation of that which you do not prefer.” Judgement creates separation and segregation and has the opposite effect of non-judgement which validates everything as being an integral part of the whole.
“Love is the absence of judgment.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
To stay in a non-judgemental state of being, one needs to stay in a “oneness” mode and realise “everything happens for a valid reason” even though we most often don’t know what that reason is because it may not be pertinent to us, but it may be to someone else.
- POSITIVE CHOICES
We are all constantly making choices. The point here is if we make positive choices then synchronistic flow can continue. Making negative choices stops the flow and we wonder why everything keeps happening to us (victimhood).
Every situation is neutral and has no built in meaning. The choice we make determines the experience we receive. Negative choice in = negative experience out. Positive choice in = positive experience out. It is simple physics.
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.” ― Eckhart Tolle
Responsibility is about taking ownership of our own creations, words and actions. When we do this we are in the drivers seat of our life. Being responsible is very different from blame. Blame is pointing the finger at someone else – it was their fault and not mine. But remember, when you point the finger at someone else there are three fingers pointing back at you. Being responsible opens up to the realization that we are not only creators of our own reality, we are also co-creators with everyone else.
It is interesting that when one takes responsibility of their own actions of a conflict that the other party will most likely be willing to own the part they played in the conflict. Having this happen will more often as not bring about a resolution to the situation.
“Responsibility is the price of freedom.” – Elbert Hubbard
Being transparent doesn’t mean that you have to reveal everything about what you/we are doing. No, it means that only what is relevant needs to be revealed about the project that is being undertaken. Being transparent in this way ensures that everyone who needs to be is kept informed with what is going on will be, but ONLY if it is relevant to them. There is no point in flooding people with information that has nothing to do with them or the project in which they are involved.
“There is no persuasiveness more effectual than the transparency of a single heart, of a sincere life.” – Joseph Barber Lightfoot
At times of decisions it is important that we discern the course that is right for you or us. Discernment is about “doing your due diligence” – checking out whether things and/or people are in alignment with you and your passion. Therefore, this Principle is strongly linked to the first Principle as it has to do with your feelings as much as anything else.
“Let discernment be your trustee, and mistakes your teacher.” ― T.F. Hodge
When discerning, one is “tuning into” the situation and/or the person that you are contemplating, as to whether it or they are in alignment with you and/or a project or activity. But discernment also has to do with your intellect. Intellect is important as the data that you discover may give you a green light, or a red light. Either way the bottom line is that you have to decide one way or another and this may come about with something as subtle as your inner guidance – a little voice or feeling that says yes, or no.
Respect for ourselves and others is important and goes hand-in-hand with non-judgment. When we honestly respect someone our attitude shows it and paves the way to creating harmonious relationships. It also means that to some degree you are going to see their point of view and even if you don’t agree you are happy for them to have that.
When you want to be respectful, try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and behave in a way that shows you care. At its heart, being respectful means showing that you value other people’s perspectives, time and space.
Respect is about valuing people, including people who are like you and those who are different. There are a couple of ways to look at respect: When you have respect for someone, you feel positive about them and admire or appreciate their actions or behavior. You can also treat anyone with respect regardless of how you feel about them. This is when you regard someone with consideration and treat them in the way you like to be treated
In a higher sense no one has the right to encroach on anothers’ free-will but in our current world people are doing it all the time. Therefore, in order to be respectful, non-judging and considerate, seek permission from anyone whose free-will you may be about to encroach upon. But also remember, that ultimately everyone makes the choices themselves even though they may create the illusion they don’t.
- ASSUME NOT – GET THE FACTS
There’s an old saying: to assume makes an ASS out of U and ME. The way this occurs is that when there is missing information a sort of vacuum is formed and a vacuum wants to be filled and it is usually filled with negative assumptions. Because of our ingrained negative habits, humans invariably “think the worst” when data is missing. In other words they start “filling the vacuum” with all sorts of imaginary negative scenarios and then start acting as though these imaginings are true. Doing this can be the source of many an upset, not to mention wars. So always, always, always be sure you do your best to discover the facts when you don’t know what is going on. To do otherwise can cause catastrophic relationship upheavals.
Conversely, this is why it is so important to be “transparent” and provide all the information you can that is relevant to do with any projects or actions.
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” ― Isaac Asimov
- BUILDING THE ROAD AS YOU TRAVEL
Living synchronistically means that you are “living in the now.” In order to do this you have to be willing to allow things to manifest when they are needed, not before and not after. This means that you don’t necessarily need to know beforehand how, when, or what things, events or people eventuate in your life. Our physical mind is not designed to know ALL THE POSSIBLE WAYS these can happen. This is where synchronicity comes into play. Our higher consciousness KNOWS how best to bring things together in the fastest most effortless way. Allowing this to occur, we call Building The Road As You Travel. In other words letting your life unfold in a natural exciting way and having fun while you are following your dreams, passion and joy! Resisting this flow or trying to “dictate how it should happen” stops this flow.
- CONSENSUS AGREEMENT
IMPORTANT: Consensus agreement is important in establishing “non-action fundamentals” such as goals, purposes, principles, policies, etc. It is NOT needed or practical for day-to-day decisions, organizing and other activities.
This concept comes from understanding that “a collective consciousness” is in fact a type of entity. For example, such an entity can be seen in action when a school of fish is being attacked. They move as ONE yet they are all individuals operating as one when they need to. Human consciousness is no different… we are all connected. Our collective consciousness has a higher perspective and already has certain fundamental agreements in place. It is therefore up to us to find out what they are. But how? Fortunately there is a process that makes it easier for this to occur. For this process to be effective it requires a minimum of 33 individuals to take part, i.e. the minimum number that represents a collective consciousness.
The question is then, how do we go about reaching a consensus agreement?
1. Define precisely the topic, subject, action or principle under discussion.
2. Discuss the topic in detail and periodically ask if consensus has been reached?
3. If not, find out details of the disagreement. Discuss that. You may find that this will bring about another understanding.
4. You may find that the original topic may need modifying, in which case check for agreement on the changed topic.
5. Keep doing the above until 100% agreement is reached.
NOTE: It is important that no one ‘agrees to agree’ for the sake of peace. Everyone needs to be 100% satisfied that the agreement is exactly what everyone is happy with.
There is a timing for everything. – one can’t miss a date with destiny. Knowing this can reduce or remove anxiety and/or judgement and make your life a lot smoother. It also remedies the need to have patience.
A metaphor how timing works: A car engine will only start when it is mechanically and electrically complete, i.e. there is fuel in the tank, the battery is charged and someone turns the key. If any one of those components is not present, it won’t happen and when they are, it will. Imagine what would happen if, for example, the battery is dead, or there is a fuel blockage. That’s right, no go. It is the same in our lives – every component has to be in place before a specific event can occur. Thus, trying to force a situation to fit just slows it down – just like the jig-saw puzzle – when you have the right piece it just falls into place quite effortlessly. Trying to fit a wrong piece is a real struggle, it requires force, and that distorts the rest of the puzzle, perhaps forcing other pieces out of place. Same with us. The easiest way is to simply act on opportunities with integrity and allow things to occur in their own good time. However, we can speed up the process by understanding and working with the principle of timing, not against it.
“Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” – Victor Hugo
- PRINCIPLE-BASED ACTION
New leadership method is PRINCIPLE-BASED, not personality based. The Principle-Based concept is not new and is being used more and more by top organizations around the world as a leadership model. The concept was originally described in Steven Covey’s best selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People but has now been expanded upon. A Principle-Based organization means that no person or group ‘controls’ the organization. The direction comes from applying and living the Guiding Principles upon which the organization was founded. This direction becomes a natural process that stems and flows from time to time in synchronous harmony (synchronicity).
This is to do with teamwork and group activities. This Principle requires a lot more discussion and functions in conjunction with consensus agreement being reached how this comes about.
NOTE: For historic information read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.
“When you engage in a work that taps your talent and fuels your passion–that rises out of a great need in the world that you feel drawn by conscience to meet–therein lies your voice, your calling, your soul’s code!” – Stephen Covey – Author 7 Habits of Highly Effective People